Social and Emotional Intelligence
For those who have read the works of WingMakers and Lyricus, you know a distinction is drawn between the mind’s knowledge of social intelligence, and the heart’s insight of emotional intelligence. They are unique environments from which you can operate and express.
The mind receives impressions about how the world works. This is sometimes called social programming or conditioning. The mind collects its programming from various sources—some clear and explicit, like school and family, some less obvious, like genetic predispositions or media programming.
Heart insight is an intuitive faculty that uses the power of emotions to shift experience and situations to a deeper and wider perspective, which is to say, a more integrated and harmonious picture. It’s easy, as we all know, to lose our sense of harmony and stability amid stressful times and events. Heart insight supports our innate ability to reset and move through challenging situations with a sense of purpose and poise.
Thus, head knowledge helps us navigate the social order and be successful in it, while heart insight helps us navigate the emotional order and reset and rebalance unsettled situations and negative emotions. These are their respective roles.
Social Intelligence: Consensual Reality
Overarching the mind and heart realms is the infinite consciousness. In the WingMakers materials it is referred to as the Sovereign Integral consciousness—that which is simultaneously connected to earth and infinity (I AM), and all life (WE ARE). This state supersedes the mind and heart—encompassing them both.
The mind uses words, images and numbers to communicate. The heart uses feelings and empathy. Our consciousness uses behaviors. This is an important, if not key understanding, because our consciousness oversees our mental and emotional states. It is the larger sphere that encompasses the mind and heart. Thus, consciousness is that part of us that is infinite and boundless. It is not contained in brain matter, body tissue or even the emotional energy of the heart. Yet it is individualized as us.
The Sovereign Integral consciousness identifies with us as individuals and the collective us as all. As it pertains to us as individuals, it orchestrates us—the parts of us. It is the unification cord upon which our various “pieces” like the mind, emotions and body are strung. And while our minds speak words and our hearts express feelings, our consciousness expresses its presence through behaviors.
So the question is, if our higher self uses behaviors to express itself, why is there so much dysfunctional behavior in the world?
The mind, aligned to social intelligence, has appropriated the human body. The mind inhibits the body from receiving guidance from the higher self. Behavior is a physical thing (the body is required). We cannot transmit our higher self through our behavior if our body is ruled by the mind or ego. This is part of the social programming: keep the focus on social intelligence—the rewards of glamour, success, influence, power, independence, even sheer survival—and the consciousness of the infinite self can be sidelined as immaterial.
The eclipse of the higher self by the mind and ego is a well-kept secret of consensual reality. The infinite being, we’re told, is a myth, unprovable, an imaginative abstraction, merely wishful thinking in the minds and hearts of the naïve. Or, if it is allowed as an abstraction, it is cloaked in allegorical veneers like cherubs and angels.
Social intelligence dominates our world. Emotional intelligence is expanding. Behavioral wisdom, a mere infant in its reach upon earth, is quietly orchestrating the new human consciousness.
Wholeness of the Journey
The idea that the higher consciousness can direct our behaviors by synchronizing the body, heart and mind as a team of expression can seem irrelevant in a world that wants easy power, control, money and fame. However, this social program is in the process of destruction. Imagine a large building that is being demolished with explosives, and you were able to watch its implosion one frame per day. Every other part of your life was in normal time, but the social program from which you were nourished was being demolished in ultra-slow motion—almost to the point you didn’t notice.
That is what is happening. The social program must be destroyed in order to activate people to the real value of their infinite selves. This conductor within you can orchestrate the body, heart and mind as tools of expression. Like an artist who can create inspiring art, you can create inspiring behaviors of forgiveness, appreciation, humility, compassion, understanding and valor.
Behavioral wisdom is our future home. The vanguard has begun. We anchor it here on earth in our bodies, hearts and minds. We embody this alignment without fanfare or title. We forgive shortcomings, understanding that they are part of the wholeness of the journey that supports our infinite selves. We hold firm to the commitment of our purpose.
Commitment is the engine.
The practice of behavioral wisdom is the fuel.
The vehicle is you.
Thank you James for this message and others on this blog!
What I like here is that we can try to practise behavioral wisdom at each moment. This sentence is very helpful for me :
“Our consciousness uses behaviors. This is an important, if not key understanding, because our consciousness oversees our mental and emotional states. It is the larger sphere that encompasses the mind and heart. Thus, consciousness is that part of us that is infinite and boundless.”
So if I well understand, it is in being in the nowness that we practise behavioral wisdom, because our consciousness then is aligned with our higher self.
I can identify these precious moments when I feel like an inner smile or a light joy in my heart, or unify with all around me …
I enjoy to belong to this quantum community. Love to all. Estelle
Each time I practice what I call the Sovereign Integral Quantum Pause, my touching into the Sovereign Integral state of consciousness seems to increase my ability to come to all of lives challenges from this level of consciousness more easily.
I had the opportunity to observe my social behavior in forgiveness in a situation. I shared with my husband I really have only forgiven at the level of social behavior. I need to get to the place of “Heart Behavior” forgiveness. What a difference there is between social forgiveness and Six Heart Virtue forgiveness. I knew in this situation I was not yet at the Heart Virtue forgiveness.
After doing the Virtuous Cycle a few times. I was ready to forgive from my Heart Virtues. This opened my heart to the new level of understanding how forgiveness works from the Heart.
When we begin to observe how the social programming works we can easily shift it to the Heart. This shift allows me release from all the “how I should behave in this situation? The Heart Virtues say come from your heart being. I feel each time we stay in the present moment and consciously act from our hearts, we are using the Behavioral Wisdom of the Sovereign Integral consciousness.
Thank’s a lot ! 🙂
Thank so much for sharing your practical experience, DBerges
“Commitment is the engine.
The practice of behavioral wisdom is the fuel.
The vehicle is you.”
I love this thank you!
and also I wanted to add
that I love the behavioral wisdom infancy that I/WE be ~
“Commitment is the engine.
The practice of behavioral wisdom is the fuel.
The vehicle is you.”
And the learning curve is often steep.
Interestingly, I have had recent dreams of driving backwards and the brakes don’t work. The symbolism is not lost on me. I will remain committed to “the long path,” but damn, it’s hard.
as is suggested in the 5th Neruda Interview, I practice Quantum Pause on a regular basis at the top of the hour, but more recently I’ve been adding the additional practice (as is also suggested) of condensing a 10-12 minute QP session into a 5-10 second session. I figure that (since most of my thoughts/emotions, etc. ..stem from the functional implants and the accompanying programming), the more I engage in the abbreviated sessions, the more it throws a wrench into the programming; or perhaps it’s more a matter of me being able to momentarily step out of the programming. either way, I am able to disengage from the programming, if only for a few moments. and then–as it always does–when the programming imposes itself once again, I repeat an abbreviated cycle of QP. it’s empowering and reaffirming because it’s one of the few things that i do that i KNOW doesn’t stem from programming.
additionally, I’m finding the suggestion of applying the heart virtues to myself to be beneficial. for me, it helps to reinforce the concept of equality and reminds me that what I do that increases my awareness and is of benefit to me, in some way contributes to the benefit of all–I Am We Are.
And the top of the hour to you too.
And to you as well! Regards.
This is another excellent article that serves as a reminder of that which is truly important in life. Behavioural Wisdom enables the practitioner to be an alchemist of transformation amidst the various situations and experiences of life. Harmonising their own emotional discord as an individual whilst simultaneously contributing towards the benefit of All.
I’d overflow the cup of infinity expressing my heartfelt gratitude for your writings James. Thank you for this particularly nice one and yet separating it out as a special one is well, just plain weird – yet here We Are. I do love words and despite their limitation, fortunately We Are not. Against all the odds in this brilliant program of deception your words cut through it like a hot knife through butter.
Ahhh, James this is so hard. And even harder when one is engaged in conflict with another. I sometimes practice so well and other times fail so miserably. My tongue is so sharp and so tied to my mind and heart that I forget (or refuse) to leave space for behavioral wisdom.
The lashing out feels justified, powerful and intelligent but…then leaves me exhausted, empty and sick. Like a boomer-rang my behavior hits me back with a tsunami of hurt.
In some ways it mirrors an addiction cycle.
Recently, I have had a difficult time applying behavior wisdom towards one. Being angry fuels my words into sharply tipped spears. Right into the other’s heart.
I hurt so I hurt. This is the justification for my rabid toddler behavior which is definitely not cute or graceful.
So now begins the process of self correction. And possibly, another reach into the unknown for which I have resisted so strongly this time. For each time I reach, I shed a little more of myself. Which is, beautiful but is also hard. Letting go of one’s armored blankie is so scary.
But maybe, when I reach this time, I will make to the hand that is reaching for me on the other side. My hand.
Thank you for sharing this. I will practice. And, I think I will call on my butterfly of forgiveness for back up.
Wow! You have just described me. Impeccably. It is a battle and a half, and am currently feeling sick and with an ache in my solar plexus as I write this. Such negative thoughts toward those that have wronged me. I thank you for your honesty. It made me cry, with relief I think haha. That my failings in this attempt at maintaining the motion of this necessary shift are not solely mine, I guess. I thank you for showing me understanding that you also know EXACTLY what it’s like to be this type of person. As I wrote that last sentence, a wave of love and gratitude flowed from my solar plexus, may you feel it with joy Elizabeth.
When I am pre menstrual (sorry boys!) I am off the scale…is that nature or the bastard programming? I struggle so so much (as I am now due to this reason). I am intolerably intolerant! And the violent thoughts/urges to express my utter fury and rage in the moment is so so powerful, it’s currently almost a physical battle with myself…a caged animal rattling the bars from within my chest, ferociously trying to get out and express itself in pure incredible hulk style, complete with slathering foaming rage at the mouth. I have half succeeded so far this week with the tests thrown my way. When I say succeeded, I mean I have not inflicted any physical pain haha, but the scorpions tail that is my tongue often engages before my mind. And as you say Elizabeth, it just comes back at lightening speed in terms of feeling drained and sick etc. A stranger was rude, I dealt with it well and politely…she got more and more annoyed and lacking in more and more composure…I bit the bait and verbally annihilated her. I didn’t need to. I could have just kept it to my initial reaction which was “Sorry are you talking to me? Wow ok I can see you’re clearly not having a good day so I just hope it gets better for you. Take care”…but that wasn’t enough, with every dangling of the carrot that was her rude and aggressive behaviour towards me, the hulk in my chest was rattling loud, urging me to just punch her in the face…or just push her in the road of oncoming cars. I didn’t!(Disclaimer…nor would I am merely being honest in my thought programming;-)). But yeah like I say, I took a juicy bite of the carrot and put her to bed. Man I wish I just shut up and left it…not that I initiated anything but I know it was a miniscule test that should have been a walk in the park… but my bloody hormones! Anyway…to those who read this far…kudos!
I thank you.
I love you.
Dear James, after years of reading and rereading your papers and books, the greatest find of my life, I just had the joyful discovery of this blog. Thank you, with all my heart for these teachings that resonate so deeply and profoundly. The behavioral wisdom, which is practical as well as spiritual, empowers us to navigate the formidable challenges that threaten not only ourselves, but our projects for the benefit of humanity. Sometimes, It’s difficult to see the way through the assaults of darkness. Yet,even though we make mistakes in judgement, if we continue to seek the heart’s compass to guide our feelings, attitudes and behaviors so that they more closely align with the Sovereign Integral, the grace that prevails includes all involved in its beneficence. Deep Love and Gratitude for every carefully, impeccably, artfully articulated phrase guiding us to the Heart of the matter and the Source of All that Is. – Vicki
Thank you Elizabeth for your Heart felt transparency.
Thank you for the Article, Behavioral Wisdom. It adds another layer of understanding I didn’t have before. It helped me understand consciousness in a new way. I also now understand Soveriegn Integral a little better. I will use The Six Heart Virtues more diligently, knowing I will be practicing behavioral Wisdom and making a difference here on Earth.
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Thanks for this article. Mind intelligence, emotional intelligence, behavioral intelligence , commitment, practice patience and towards to Sovereign Integral. This journey is not easy , more easier for some ,harder for some. One possibly slip back many times but if with genuine and commitment ,Felling that it is the way .